In general, assumptions are not a good thing, especially if they are bad ones. Worse is when you believe and confirm those assumptions without even checking if they are true or not. It's a virus. It's a poison. Believing in instincts. It's almost like a sin.
Bad assumptions can kill a relationship. Frankly, this is how I lost my best friend. Sometimes, a person is totally innocent - but because of someone's negative mind, he or she can be a victim of coldness, bitterness and the falling out of a relationship.
I guess I've already talked about this before. I just wish people would really - REALLY and TRULY - realise how deadly bad assumptions can turn out to be. How killing, how sinful, how degrading. It is really one bad thing. I can't stress enough how awful bad assumptions are. And then, to know that someone you're so close with, someone you care, love all your life, has bad assumptions about you, is really disappointing. What's worse is, they BELIEVE those assumptions without clarifying them.
It's offending because 1. they think badly of you, and 2. they don't check with you. They don't come to you. They just confirm these assumptions based on what they THINK they see.
I follow two simple ways to get rid of bad assumptions.
1. Brush them off. (at minimal level)
2. Check with whom you have bad assumptions about. (at disturbing level)
But never ever believe them without checking. If they are not true (and it's just your mind playing tricks on you, or influence from others), it becomes a sin.
Be ware.
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